"The Addicted Mind Podcast" offers hope, understanding, and guidance for those dealing with addiction, with real stories and research to inspire and show the journey to recovery is worth it.
Grieving the “Lover”: A New Way to Understand Change
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Hi Reader, I just released a new episode of The Addicted Mind, and it’s a powerful one. I sat down with Steve Buckby, a therapist with over 50 years of experience, to talk about the Satir Model of Change and what it teaches us about recovery. One idea really stood out: sometimes we have to grieve addiction like we would a relationship. Letting go can feel like loss — even when it’s the right choice. We also talk about why real change often feels messy. You leave what’s familiar, step into chaos, and slowly build a new way of living. It’s uncomfortable… but it’s also where growth happens. If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you were and who you want to be, I think this conversation will resonate. Thanks for listening and being part of this journey. With appreciation, P.S. - If change feels overwhelming right now, try this: notice one small thing you’re doing differently today. That’s how new patterns begin. |
The Addicted Mind Podcast
"The Addicted Mind Podcast" offers hope, understanding, and guidance for those dealing with addiction, with real stories and research to inspire and show the journey to recovery is worth it.
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