New Episode: Ever struggle to name what you’re feeling?


Hi Reader,

Have you ever felt a swirl of emotions but couldn’t quite figure out what you were actually feeling? That’s more common than you might think—especially in recovery.

In this week’s episode of The Addicted Mind +, Eric and I talk about the powerful skill of identifying and naming your emotions. When we can’t make sense of what we feel, it’s easy to fall back into old coping habits. But when we learn to recognize emotions like fear, anger, shame, or guilt, we gain a lot more control over how we respond.

In the episode, we walk through a simple set of questions you can ask yourself to help pinpoint what’s really going on inside. Once you know what you’re feeling, you can start to “check the facts” and adjust how strongly those emotions are running the show.

If emotions have ever felt confusing or overwhelming, this episode will give you some practical tools to work with them instead of against them.

🎧 Listen to the episode now

More soon,
Duane


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