Why Fighting Your Pain Might Be Making It Worse


Hi Reader,

It’s Duane here. We just dropped a new podcast episode, and I really think it’s one of the most important ones Eric and I have done.

What if all the ways you’ve tried to deal with anxiety, depression, addiction, or trauma are actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, my guest Eric and I talk about something called creative hopelessness. I know—it sounds heavy, but it’s not about giving up on life. It’s about letting go of the exhausting fight to control how you feel all the time.

We dive into a simple framework from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), called "DOTS"—Distraction, Opting Out, Thinking, and Substances—and how they might be holding you back.

If you’ve done all the therapy, read all the books, tried all the apps, and still feel stuck... this is for you. It's time to stop fighting your feelings and start building a life that truly matters to you.

🎧 Listen to the episode now

Thanks for being here,
Duane


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