When your parent’s needs always came first


Hi Reader,

Growing up, did you ever feel like your feelings came second to a parent’s needs? Maybe you learned to stay quiet, avoid conflict, or make yourself smaller to keep the peace.

This week, I’m sharing my conversation with Julie L. Hall, author of The Narcissist in Your Life. Julie grew up in a narcissistic family and knows firsthand how confusing those experiences can be.

We talk about how these family patterns develop, how they can affect children well into adulthood, and why addiction, depression, and family conflict can sometimes be part of the picture.

We also talk about how understanding what happened can be an important step toward healing.

You can’t change your past, but you can learn to understand it and choose what comes next.

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Take care of yourself,
Duane

P.S. If this topic brings someone to mind, consider sharing this episode with them. Sometimes, finding the words for what we experienced is the first step toward feeling less alone.


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